I’m only human, I’m just a woman man
Help me believe in what I could be
And all that I am
Show me the stairway I have to climb
Lord for my sake teach me to take
One day at a time
This book aims to be the philosopher’s stone—turning our base natures into hearts of gold, our impracticalities into reason and the vast dead span of life into a blooming utopia of dreams. The author proves to be a counselor and healer for parents, teenagers, young adults and also provides a solution to the tumultuous life of people facing their ‘midlife crises’.
Young adults often laugh away at their world and escape that world in flights of fancy but has anyone felt the pain in their eyes? The author lays bare the current trends and enduring characteristics of young adults in the most lucid style with interesting pictures and examples to support. These offer a tremendous springboard to discuss larger issues relating to the youth and adult mind.
About the Author(s)
Rashmi Singh is a freelance Personality Development Trainer and Counsellor based at Faridabad, near Delhi. An alumnus of Notre Dame Academy Patna, Loreto Convent, Ranchi and Avila Convent, Patna (P.W.C.), Rashmi did her C.T.E., M.A. and M.B.A post marriage. An extremely sincere worker, she has watched life from a very close proximity sieving positivity from the heaps of piled negativity around her. An active blogger, her posts appear in the Asia Section of an International Website, news.net by the names of Riviera and Lost Tranquility. Rashmi’s debut novel ‘Love’s Journey’ published by Pustak Mahal is already a raging success, and highly appreciated....
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• Acknowledgements 7
• Author’s Note 8
• Preface 9
• Confidence Development 13
Winning Tricks
• Pay Packages 20
The Nitpicks Of Job Factor
• Mind Rape 30
Mind Game Unfolded
• Emotional Abuse 36
Survival Secrets
• Pangs of Perseverance 41
Are They Justified?
• Peer Pressure 45
Mind Game Tamed
• Dating 51
Curb the Shocking Truth
• Nudity 56
A Mind Sudoko
• Bed Buddies 61
Concept Misconceptualised
• Anger Part 1 68
The Global Killer
• Anger Part 2 74
Tricks To Manage
• Effective Communication Skill 81
Path To Success
• Sexual Myths 86
Busted
• On A Lighter Note 96
Heart Is A Tourist
Mend Broken Ones
• Special Women’s Section 99
The Divorce Dragon
Successful Women – Unsuccessful Lives
Why Women Cling To Promises
• Trust: Confidence: Success 111
Distrusting ‘Trust’ – A Tyranny’s Disease
• Drug Addict? Alcohol? 120
No They Are Porn Addicts!
• Sex, City, Scavengers And
Interpersonal Skills 126
• Emotional Compassion
Versus Unknown Abuses 134
• Decision Making 139
• Epilogue 143
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Sample Chapters
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[ CHAPTER SIX ]
PEER PRESSURE:
DO NOT LET YOUR MIND BE TAMED:
BE YOUR OWN MASTER
“I want the same doll as Clara’s, Sara whimpered and cried the whole day till her parents didn’t give in to her demand. Rosaline, Sara’s mother was totally confused with her three-year-olds’ ever increasing demand. Actually she failed to understand what a psychiatrist would have understood, i.e. Sara, even at a tender age of three had become a victim of the ‘PEER PRESSURE SYNDROME’!"
Peer Pressure refers to the influence exerted by a PEER GROUP in encouraging a person to change his or her ATTITUDES, VALUES, or BEHAVIOUR in order to CONFORM to group NORMS. Social groups affected include membership groups, when the individual is “formally” a member for example, political party, trade union, or a social clique.
A person affected by peer pressure may or may not want to belong to these groups. They may also recognize dissociative groups with which they would not wish to associate, and thus they behave adversely concerning that group’s behaviours. Peer pressure can cause people to do things they would not normally do, e.g. promote hatred, take drugs, smoke, get a girlfriend, marry, get a job, have children, buy items they don’t really need (cars, houses, boats), etc. This is the dictionary meaning of it.
Peer pressure at times can be killing and it is not that only children of High Schools AND Colleges are undergoing or rather suffering it. Even a three-year-old Sarah wants a doll same as her friend because her “Status” needs“A BOOST”. The level of peer influence generally increases in the growing years of children, and resistance to peer influence often declines as children gain independence from the family or caregivers, and before they fully form an adult identity. Pre-school children tend to be the least aware of peer pressure, and are the least influenced
by the need to conform. However with more social interactions outside the home and more awareness of others, the influence of peers increases.
Students in colleges these days not only cope up with studies but they also have to look “handsome”, “macho”and so on ... the list is never ending. Sometimes trivial
matters like “teasing” or “taunting” which is another form of bullying takes lives of children – either the“silent one ends up his life” or “unbelievable but true takes the life of those bullying him”!
The consequences sometimes are dangerous and parents, teachers, well-wishers have to take actions within time. The ever increasing suicidal rates are alarming making people to sit up and think where exactly things are going wrong?
# Winning Trick:
Yes guys – Parents and well-wishers are not always there with you. You have to decide what is good for you. Things which seem so serious become trivial with the passage of time. So do not let petty, unwanted happenings taint your life and personality forever.
Before it is too late the society as a whole has to come forward as a help or else every day we are reading serious articles on this ever growing issue! We are all well aware of this but still presume that situation will come under control on its own – we can close our eyes to what is happening in the name of ragging and easing pressure of exams, losing girlfriends, etc. Students resort to uncalled means, like drugs, alcohol, smoking, petty thievery to maintain their lifestyle. Who will help such dejected elements? Surely we have to do so – if required medication; counseling and means to bring them back to the mainstream should be adopted. SO GET UP AND BE A HELP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!
I would request those who are unnecessarily facing this syndrome to be their own helpers as no one is going to help them. DON’T GET HYPNOTISED. The things which seem so grievous at school/college level hardly has any meaning once you enter the mainstream of life – There are thousand reasons to crib and millions to be happy. Now it is up to you if you want to ruin this one life or make it fulfilling so when after years you look back, you are able to say, “YES I DID IT”.
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